I generally describe myself as bisexual though this is largely in part because I like the stuff rattling around inside people's skulls better than whatever features might be situated on the outside of it. I have dated both genders and I will openly admit this. However, I have been told that I must merely be bi-curious as I have not had sex with both genders. The distinction is not entirely clear to me at this point. Given that the previous assertion has something to do with the "How do you know?" cliche* I can only assume that the difference is a matter of objectivity. Objectively I cannot say that I would enjoy being with both genders unless I had tried it. This is, I suspect, a key point in many people's argument against other people being gay because obviously how can you objectively know that you only like your own gender if you have never attempted to be with the opposite gender? To which I would urge the response that I intend to use when the opportunity next presents itself: How do you know you are heterosexual if you have never tried being with the same gender? Objectively you cannot say that you are heterosexual without trying both genders any more than you can say you are bisexual without having tried both. You must merely be hetero-curious as I am merely bi-curious.
*As in: How do you know you're gay? How do you know you won't like having sex with women if you've never tried it? Et cetera, et cetera.
The response I usually get is "I don't believe you're bisexual." ...do I REALLY have to defend my sexuality just because I don't watch girl-on-girl porn? *lol* I concur. The brain is where the sexy is AT. A pretty person with nothing in their head is like getting an empty wrapped box for Christmas. Initially thrilling, ultimately disappointing.
ReplyDeleteMy view: You know your sexuality when your sexual dreams and lusts are targeted toward both genders or just one, or maybe even none.
ReplyDeleteYou don't need to have sex to want to do it.
Also, why would anyone find out about your sexuality?
That's a pretty private matter, I can't imagine a homosexual coming up to people and telling them that they're gay (especially with the homophobes and all) and all the heterosexuals I know feel no need to state their preference; everyone just goes about their lives.
Although bisexuals have an easier time with life since they're flexible.
By the way Jace, what's your gender?
I've definitely gotten disbelief. In my sexuality and in the existence of bisexuality itself. I really like your description of the empty box wrapped all prettily in Christmas paper.
ReplyDeleteI tends to follow the topic of dating. I've dated both genders so when dating comes up I don't lie about it and this often leads to talking about my sexuality. Or, if some is flipping through a magazine or something and says that some celebrity is hot I'll agree or disagree based on my actual preference as opposed to some kind of perceived heterosexuality.
That is a good question. According to some internet program my friend used to analyze my blog there's a 52% likelihood that the writer is female and 48% likelihood that the writer is male. Which is about 2% off from how I'd like to write. The ideal writer is gender-neutral. It would ruin it if I told you. Although I will admit that my profile picture is a genuine picture of myself.